Admit to yourself that you want things.
More money, more freedom, better friendships, a different job, recognition, creativity, better health, a smaller waistline, to stop drinking… Whatever.
Practice telling yourself what you want. Then practice telling yourself that you deserve it.
Start showing others what you want in small steps.
For example, start by wearing your favorite sports team memorabilia out in public. Or put a bumper sticker on your car promoting something you believe in.
Work to overcome the fears that are holding you back from getting what you want.
Don’t be afraid that a person will disagree with them.
As long as you are not hurting anyone, and if you’re polite (and determined) throughout the process, you should essentially ignore any negative feedback you receive.
Indeed, push forward in spite of negative feedback.
Pick one dream from the many and start chipping away at making it happen.
Accept that not everyone will like or care about it. On the contrary, most people will be ambivalent and ignore your efforts altogether.
Don’t think too much. Remember the quote from Hamlet:
…there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
Force yourself to take action against your fears and recognize the thoughts that are trying to persuade you otherwise.
You will feel terrific by forcing yourself to do things your lizard brain does not want you to do… Indeed, this may be the key to happiness.
I think having the lizard in charge may be the key to being locked behind the door of misery.
And answer this question honestly…
Who do you think is keeping you from getting what you want?
The answer is not always obvious.
It is you who are the one keeping yourself from getting what you want.