Who Am I? It Depends On Who You Ask…

Who Am I...?

If you sometimes think to yourself…

“Who Am I?”

You are you’re not alone…

It seems like we’re in a constant battle with the outside world to define ourselves.

The battle is between the influences of the outside world on the one side, and our thoughts, feelings, emotions and experiences inside ourselves on the other.

Who Am I?

If you ask the outside world for the answer, chances are you will eventually hit a dead end…

You may be constantly looking outward for answers to who you are.

And it’s really not your fault because you may not even realize that you’re looking outside for the answer.

Indeed, we’re so overwhelmed by stimuli today that it’s hard to even find some quiet time to think by ourselves.

This may be why the book “10% Happier” struck a chord when I read it a few years ago… And why Sam Harris’s The Waking Up Course is such a hit.

People need time to look inside themselves to get their bearings…

How Can I Answer The Question “Who Am I?”?

The answer to the question “Who am I?” can only be answered if you accept that there are really only two places to look for the answer:

  1. Inside
  2. Outside

The world seems to want us to look only outside for the answer…

  • How much money do you have?
  • Are you spiritual or religious?
  • What’s your political affiliation?
  • What’s your race?
  • Do you exercise? Are you fit or fat?
  • What do your friends think?
  • Are you on social media?
  • What does your family background look like?
  • What kind of job or career do you have?
  • Do you drink alcohol or do you abstain?
  • Where did you go to school?
  • What’s your favorite sports team?
  • What’s your style?
  • What kind of music do you like?
  • Where are you from?
  • Are you artistic?
  • Do you like math?
  • Are you on drugs?
  • How much time do you spend on the Internet?
  • What kind of car do you drive?
  • What are your sexual preferences?

The outside world will seek to answer all of these questions for you… Advertisers are more than happy to sell you a product that will solve your “problems” related to these questions.

Take stock of who you are… As you start to collect internal feedback, you can gauge it against the outside world for perspective.

the inner world vs the outer world

Life is a game.

But the world can so easily distract you.

Eventually you will get some sense of the answer to the question of “Who am I?”

As you look inside and take feedback from the outside world, create rules for yourself, honor your own preferences, and be disciplined about making yourself do things you know are good for you, even when (especially when) you don’t want to do them…