Feeling envious when you talk with someone who you think is “better” than you are is often a disingenuous, false signal.
Everyone’s dealing with something you have no idea about… Everyone has a struggle.
A better approach is to really admire that person for their ability to remain calm on the surface while their world could likely be falling apart.
Thinking, I admire you, is a form of mental Aikido will help you in the end.